Some People Will Board Your Bus

Jon Gordon Quote -- Realize that some people will board your bus and some people won't. That's OK. The people who get on were supposed to get on; those who don't were probably meant to get on another bus or perhaps they would have ruined your ride. Just keep driving with your vision focused on the road ahead. If you waste your energy thinking about the people who didn't get on your bus you'll have less fuel to pick up the people who want to get on.

What Sizes Are Plus Size

It is considered impolite to ask a woman her dress size, unless of course you work in a clothing store. It is also considered impolite to assume someone is plus size. As someone who is plus size I find it more offensize and impolite for people to act offended by the term plus size as if someone said “you have cooties”.

What is Plus SizeIf you do any amount of shopping you know that every brand and retailer have their own sizing system and while some shops have similar sizing there is no exact match. In the last ten years or so with the influx in the popularity of full-figure models there has been even more confusion on what is plus size and what is not.

Plus Size Does Not Mean Fat

“She doesn’t look ‘plus size’,” says a woman looking at a magazine. Plus size includes a range of sizes just like regular sizes includes a range of sizes. Generally from a retail standpoint it used to be size 14 to size 24. Over the last five years more and more retailers aand brands have realized that size doesn’t stop at 24 and offer extended sizes. Some shops offer up to 28, some offer up to 32, and some offer up to 44. Plus size does not necessarily mean fat but it can. One woman can not be the representation of a full size range but being grouped in with all these sizes does not make someone a leper either.

Full-Figure

Part of the confusion has been the use of full-figure models to showcase plus size clothing. Full-figure models are larger than the mainstream size “0” models but they usually did not fall into the plus size clothing range. Most were size 4 to 10. A very select few were a size 12.

Along the way the lines got blurred and people who were excited to see fuller figured women showing off their clothes just called them plus size models — they were wearing plus size clothes after all. But it wasn’t an accurate depiction. This continued and of course sparked debate about what plus size models look like and how it was a travesty to call these women plus size (again, with the assumption that being called plus size is the worse thing possible).

Today’s Plus Size Model

This has all been a necessary process to bring us today’s model. While some brands still insist on using regular and full-figure models instead of plus size models the industry for plus size models who have plus size bodies is gaining ground. While typically size 14-16-18 are the top models in the fashion industry there are popular models making a living in sizes 22-24-26-28.

Does Size Classification Matter to You?

Does size classification matter to you? What do you think the size ranges should be and why? And does it really matter?

The Smiths — Some Girls are Bigger than Others

You wouldn’t think it would have to be said. Women come in all sizes: small, medium, large, extra-large, and super size. We are all real women but more importantly we are all women. I was never really a big fan of the Smiths but really their simple lyrics say it all: “some girls are bigger than others”. It is just so matter-of-fact.

Some Girls are Bigger than Others

The Some Girls are Bigger than Others album cover.From the ice age to the dole-age
There is but one concern
I have just discovered

Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls mothers are bigger than
Other girls mothers

Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls mothers are bigger than
Other girls mothers

As Anthony said to Cleopatra
As he opened a crate of ale

Oh, I say,
Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls mothers are bigger than
Other girls mothers

Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls are bigger than others
Some girls mothers are bigger than
Other girls mothers

Send me the pillow
The one that you dream on

Send me the pillow
The one that you dream on

And I’ll send you mine

Citation: lyrics copyright Warner Bros UK/The Smiths.

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* Download Some Girls Are Bigger Than Others (2011 Remastered Version) from Amazon

Real Gorgeous Book Review

Who is Kaz Cooke and why haven’t I heard of her? Cooke is another creative artist from down under. The Australian writer, cartoonist, filmmaker and columnist has a slew of works to her name. She is the creator of Hermoine the Modern Girl, a colourful caricature who’s also featured between the pages of Real Gorgeous.

My book review of Real Gorgeous by Kaz Cooke.Real Gorgeous is about body shapes, body parts, exercise, plastic surgery, fashion, dieting, advertising, modelling, eating disorders, responding to the body police and so much more. Yes, it’s a women’s book but it is often directed toward girls too. It touches on so many topics relating to the body and beauty; providing some research, some quotes and some of the authors own opinions. Each chapter has suggestions for further reading.

Real Gorgeous isn’t a fat book but a body image book. Anyone is sure to find at least one of the anecdotes in the shadow boxes, placed throughout each chapter, to relate to. If there’s one thing, this book shows it is that body image issues are more of a global issue than just within our group of friends. Canadians, Australians, and Americans are all dealing with similar issues regarding body image. Body image issues are also not delegated to one body type. Fat people don’t have the monopoly on bad body image.

It acknowledges the impact of family, friends, media and self-perception on body image. Cooke exposes the fashion and diet industry for what they are… People “trying to sell you something.” She is quick to point out all the money we spend needlessly and what we’re really getting for it. A real eye opener.

Cooke summarizes a lot of points from other’s work to back up what she is saying. Not a page goes by without a quote from someone else. Many relevant quotes from Penelope Goward appear. One in particular that rings a bell, “Accept and like yourself for who you are. Stop postponing your life until you are an acceptable shape and size.” There are quite a few anonymous quotes like, “a New York make-up artist says…” which I found irritating and at times caused me to question their validity.

Sometimes it seems Cooke is checking to see if the reader is paying attention and will stick in nonsense comments, like during a listing of healthy eating she added, “Don’t stick popcorn up your nose.” Silly but unexpected and funny none the less.

There’s an excellent section called Body Image Boosters the reader can return to again and again for ideas on how to give yourself a break from your own negativity. One of my favourite sections is what to say to the “Body Police”. You know those people who never really have anything nice to say to you or who offer a compliment with a negative tag on the end.

Real Gorgeous is an informative, light read with many sections for the stop and start reader. It provides an alternative look at the body and beauty from a personal perspective and that of others. An excellent book to have around.

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Topic Links
* Purchase Real Gorgeous at Amazon.com.
* Purchase Real Gorgeous at Amazon.ca.
* Kaz Cooke’s official site

Originally published 3/18/2005 at Large & Lovely, BellaOnline.

Once Upon a Fat Monster

A few weeks ago an online “friend” (a.k.a. someone I stalk on all my social networks) started posting pictures of stamps she made — she carved them, dipped them in ink and applied them to paper. It is a little more complicated than that but you get the gist. The theme she is currently working on is mystical monsters (although I really don’t consider most of them to be monsters) that she has fat-ified.

The artist in question is Marianne Kirby a funky plus size woman who is the voice behind The Rotund — one of the first fat blogs I ever started reading. She is also a regular contributor at xoJane and a co-author of Lessons from the Fat-o-sphere: Quit Dieting and Declare a Truce with Your Body. All this with insanely long nails.

I instantly fell in love with her centaur. Being a Sagittarius myself and for $15 (plus an affordable $5 for shipping) I couldn’t say no. As much as I love the red I am a blue girl through and through which wasn’t a problem. The 9 x 12 sheet arrived in a stiff boarded envelope all decorated with pretty stamped snails on the back and a whale on the front.

My fat monster print arrived all dressed in snails and paper tape.

Inside was my Etsy invoice and my heavy card stock print securely taped between the paper board and a lighter sheet of paper.

Caution fat monster inside!

I love it. Love the color too which I would call more teal than blue — but still blue in my book. I will probably cut it down to 8 x 10 to frame and hang in my office.

My fat Sagittarius/Centaur by Marianne Kirby.

The only thing I am disappointed about is that there is no artist signature or print number. It would have been a nice touch.

My fat Sagittarius print by Marianne Kirby.

I highly recommend checking out Marianne’s Etsy shop where you will find other prints in this size as well as note cards. There are fat harpies, fat mermaids, fat lamia and fat centaurs waiting to be purchased as individual prints and sets.

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Topic Links
* Get your fat monster from Etsy
* Check out Marianne’s articles at xoJane

Life is About Not Knowing

"Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what's going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity." ~ Gilda Radner

Christina Aguilera — Beautiful

I am not a Christina Aguilera music fan. Other than Beautiful I could not name any other songs by her. I did not even fall in love with her version of this song at first. I first heard it when an adorable little black girl sang it a cappella on the television series ER and it totally shredded my heart. Since then Christina’s version has grown on me. It is a beautiful song for any size woman of any color from any background. Watch the video to see the video then play it again and sing along with the lyrics below the video.

Beautiful Lyrics

The song beautiful by Christina Aguilera is for women and men of all sizes.
Don’t look at me

Every day is so wonderful
And suddenly, it’s hard to breathe
Now and then, I get insecure
From all the fame, I’m so ashamed

I am beautiful no matter what they say
Words can’t bring me down
I am beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can’t bring me down
So don’t you bring me down today

To all your friends, you’re delirious
So consumed in all your doom
Trying hard to fill the emptiness
The piece is gone and the puzzle undone
That’s the way it is

You are beautiful no matter what they say
Words won’t bring you down, oh no
You are beautiful in every single way
Yes, words won’t bring you down
So, don’t you bring me down today

No matter what we do
(no matter what we do)
No matter what they say
(no matter what they say)
When the sun is shining through
Then the clouds won’t stay
And everywhere we go
(everywhere we go)
The sun won’t always shine
(sun won’t always shine)
But tomorrow will find a way
All the other times

We are beautiful no matter what they say
Yes, words won’t bring us down
We are beautiful no matter what they say
Yes, words can’t bring us down
Oh no, so don’t you bring me down today

Don’t you bring me down today
Don’t you bring me down today

Citation: lyrics copyright RCA Records/BMG.

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Topic Links
* Download Beautiful from Amazon

Emilia: Big Big World

I first came across Big Big World in 2008 and it was instant love. The song is not related specifically to plus size women and the artist is far from plus size but I think it speaks to all of us. The accompanying video is shot in black and white with lots of cityscape views. I like the simplicity of it which matches nicely to the simplicity of the lyrics. Watch the video to see the video then play it again and sing along with the lyrics below the video.

Big Big World Lyrics

One of my fave songs is Big Big World by Emilia.
I’m a big big girl
In a big big world
It’s not a big big thing if you leave me
But I do do feel that
I do do will miss you much
Miss you much

I can see the first leaf falling
It’s all yellow and nice
It’s so very cold outside
Like the way I’m feeling inside

I’m a big big girl
In a big big world
It’s not a big big thing if you leave me
But I do do feel that
I do do will miss you much
Miss you much

Outside it’s now raining
And tears are falling from my eyes
Why did it have to happen
Why did it all have to end

I’m a big big girl
In a big big world
It’s not a big big thing if you leave me
But I do do feel that
I do do will miss you much
Miss you much

I have your arms around me ooooh like fire
But when I open my eyes
You’re gone

I’m a big big girl
In a big big world
It’s not a big big thing if you leave me
But I do do feel that
I do do will miss you much
Miss you much

I’m a big big girl
In a big big world
It’s not a big big thing if you leave me
But I do feel I will miss you much
Miss you much

Citation: lyrics copyright Rodeo Records AB/Universal Records.

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Topic Links
* Download Big Big World from Amazon

U2 — Big Girls are Best

The Irish band U2 came under my radar while I was in college. They had a string of popular songs that I was in love with. Big Girls are Best was one of those songs I never really paid attention to until someone pointed out to me that it was a big girl song. It was a leftover song from “the Pop sessions” and ended up on an album full of B-side songs for Target, yeah the retail store. And here it is. Watch the video to see the video then play it again and sing along with the lyrics below the video.

Big Girls are Best Lyrics

U2 did a b-side single about plus size women called Big Girls are the Best.

Oh Oh Ohhh
Oh Oh Ohhh
Baby

As long as the night is colored
Blue and black
Oh yeah yeah yeah
As long as you’re on your knees
And she’s not on her back
Oh yeah yeah yeah

Avenue Atlantico
Seventeen-oh-two
She’s coco butter
Baby, she’s the glue

She’s got the baby at her breast
She knows big girls are best

We sing it, we go, we go
Ma ma ma ma ma ma ma ma ma ma ma ma
We gonna weigh in
Ma ma ma ma ma ma

I’m gonna change like the weather
Hot to cold
Oh yeah yeah yeah
She’s keeps it all together
She’s got the mother load
Oh yeah yeah yeah

She feels it
Every sensation
She’s got a smile
Like salvation
She’s got a baby at her breast
She knows big girls are best

Oh Oh ma ma ma ma ma
Ma ma ma sexy ma ma mom
sexy ma ma
Ma sexy ma ma mom
Sexy ma ma ma
sexy ma ma ma ma ma ma ma ma ma

She’s elliptical
Also political
All so spiritual
Not superficial
Yeah, she’s tropical
Yes, she’s illogical
Those little girls are a pest
Big girls are the best

Oh Oh Oh
Oh Oh Oh
Baby

As long as the night is colored
Blue and black
Oh yeah yeah yeah
As long as you’re on your knees
And she’s not on her back
Oh yeah yeah yeah

She can taste every sensation
She’s got a smile
Like salvation
She’s got a baby
A baby at her breast
She walk like she talk
Big girls are best

Big girls

Ma ma ma ma ma ma ma ma
Sexy ma ma ma ma ma ma ma
Sexy ma ma ma ma ma ma ma
Sexy ma ma ma ma ma ma ma
Sexy ma ma ma ma ma ma
My mama

Citation: lyrics copyright U2/Interscope.

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Topic Links
* Download Big Girls are Best from iTunes

Queen — Fat Bottom Girls

You can’t savor the splendor of Queen without a little classic called Fat Bottom Girls (1978). While they were mainly a rock band there is something kind of country sounding to this song. It’s catchy and of course with Freddie Mercury singing it is totally sexy and fun. Watch the video to see the video then play it again and sing along with the lyrics below the video.

Fat Bottom Girls Lyrics

Queen has a song called Fat Bottomed Girls.
Are you gonna take me home tonight?
Ah down beside that red firelight
Are you gonna let it all hang out?
Fat bottomed girls
You make the rockin’ world go round

Hey I was just a skinny lad
Never knew no good from bad
But I knew life before I left my nursery – huh
Left alone with big fat Fanny
She was such a naughty nanny
Heap big woman you made a bad boy out of me
Hey hey!

I’ve been singing with my band
Across the water across the land
I seen every blue eyed floozy on the way, hey
But their beauty and their style
Went kind of smooth after a while
Take me to them dirty ladies everytime

C’mon
Oh won’t you take me home tonight?
Oh down beside your red firelight
Oh and you give it all you got
Fat bottomed girls you make the
rockin’ world go round
Fat bottomed girls you make the
rockin’ world go round

Hey listen here
Now I got mortgages on homes
I got stiffness in ma’ bones
Ain’t no beauty Queens in this
locality (I tell you)
Oh but I still get my pleasure
Still get my greatest treasure
Heap big woman you gonna make
a big man out of me

Now get this
Oh (I know) you gonna take me
home tonight (please)
Oh down beside that red firelight
Are you gonna let it all hang out?
Fat bottomed girls you make the
rockin’ world go round yeah
Fat bottomed girls you make the
rockin’ world go round

Get on your bikes and ride
Ooh yeah oh yeah them fat bottomed girls
Fat bottomed girls
Yeah yeah yeah
Alright, ride ‘em, c’mon
Fat bottomed girls – yes yes

Citation: lyrics copyright Queen/Hollywood Records.

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Topic Links
* Download Queen’s Greatest Hits or Fat Bottom Girls from Amazon

AC / DC — Whole Lotta Rosie

I can’t say I am a huge die-hard fan of AC / DC. I never really listened to anything of theirs until about five years ago when I started looking for big girl music and found Whole Lotta Rosie. The following video is from 2009 when they performed it live with a giant breasted blow up prop on stage. The actual song came out in 1977! Watch the video to see the video then play it again and sing along with the lyrics below the video.

Whole Lotta Rosie Lyrics

Whole Lotta Rosie is a song by AC/DC about a plus size woman.
I want tell you a story
About a woman I know
When it comes to making love
Rosie steals the show
She ain’t exactly pretty
She ain’t exactly small
Forty-two, thirty-nine, fifty-six
You could say she’s got it all

Never had a woman
Never had a woman like you
Doing all the things
Doing all the things you do
Ain’t no fairy story
Ain’t no skin and bone
But you give it all you got
Weighing in at nineteen stone

You’re a whole lotta woman
A whole lotta woman
A whole lotta Rosie
A whole lotta Rosie
A whole lotta Rosie
You’re a whole lotta woman

Oh honey you can do it
Do it to me all night long
Only one to turn
Only one to turn me on
All through the night time
And right around the clock
To my surprise
Rosie never stops

You’re a whole lotta woman
A whole lotta woman
A whole lotta Rosie
A whole lotta Rosie
A whole lotta Rosie
You’re a whole lotta woman

Rosie!

A whole lotta woman
A whole lotta Rosie
A whole lotta Rosie
A whole lotta Rosie
You’re a whole lotta woman

Citation: lyrics copyright AC / DC/Albert/Epic/Sony BMG.

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Topic Links
* Get a Whole Lotta Rosie from Amazon

Mika — Big Girl (You are Beautiful)

We are always telling one another “You are Beautiful” and since 2007 we’ve been able to sing it to others and to ourselves. I love Lebanese-British singer-songwriter Mika’s Big Girl (You are Beautiful) and the song has a smashing video of fat girls dancing in the streets to go along with it. Watch the video to see the video then play it again and sing along with the lyrics below the video.

Big Girl (You are Beautiful)

The album cover for Mika album with You are Beautiful single.
Walks in to the room
Feels like a big balloon
I said, “Hey girls you are beautiful”
Diet coke and a pizza please
Diet coke I’m on my knees
Screaming “Big girl you are beautiful”

You take your skinny girls
Feel like I’m gonna die
Cause a real woman
Needs a real man is why

You take your girl
And multiply her by four
Now a whole lotta woman
Needs a whole lot more

Get yourself to the Butterfly Lounge
Find yourself a big lady
Big boy come on around
And they’ll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize
Since I was in my braces
A watering hole
With the girls around
And curves in all the right places

Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful

Walks in to the room
Feels like a big balloon
I said, “Hey girls you are beautiful”
Diet coke and a pizza please
Diet coke I’m on my knees
Screaming “Big girl you are beautiful”

You take your girl
And multiply her by four
Now a whole lotta woman
Needs a whole lot more

Get yourself to the Butterfly Lounge
Find yourself a big lady
Big boy come on around
And they’ll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize
Since I was in my braces
A watering hole
With the girls around
And curves in all the right places

Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful

Get yourself to the Butterfly Lounge
Find yourself a big lady
Big boy come on around
And they’ll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize
Since I was in my braces
A watering hole
With the girls around
And curves in all the right places

Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Big girls you are beautiful
Oh, you are beautiful

Get yourself to the Butterfly Lounge
Find yourself a big lady
Big boy come on around
And they’ll be calling you baby

No need to fantasize
Since I was in my braces
A watering hole
With the girls around
And curves in all the right places

Big girl you are beautiful
Big girl you are beautiful
Big girl you are beautiful

Citation: lyrics copyright MIKA/Casablanca Music, LLC.

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Topic Links
* Download Big Girl (You are Beautiful) from Amazon

Be Happy

Be Happy. It is one way of being wise. By Colette